Performing an activity constantly, with tradition that becomes customary and in a community way, that is, it is shared with the people of our environments, it is a social practice;With this we can clearly understand that parenting and everything that it implies leads to social practices: breastfeeding, changing the diaper, cooking healthy and according to the creature, keeping the home clean and tidy, locking, feeding in the mouth, cooking, etc., etc., etc.These social practices are the support of everything in our lives.However, in a macho society that tends notGeopolitics, just to give some examples;Let's think about what topics the heads of the most prestigious tabloids deal with.
The above aims to be a brief introduction to reflect on how the macho society is configured, where both symbolic and material hierarchy is still in force, around the place given to domestic space, affectivity, care and love;The above is the result of continuing in a logic where everything is crossed by gender: the valid and upper masculine, the feminine invalid and lower (according to patriarchal thinking).
The patriarchal myth of maternity that is promoted this May 10
However, it is important to break this patriarchal and binary logic, because there is a way of acting from the normativity and mandates that society implants by force and in a latent way, and another that is from questioning said regulations and social social conventionsthat promote conditions of disadvantages for some and advantages for others;The latter can be achieved from questioning the form of conventional parenting that continues to replicate gender stereotypes and sexist behaviors where the center is to continue labeling and see them as inferior beings, to abolish such conventional raising there is a feminist proposal to exercise eachday the feminist parenting.
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-Detect the adultocentrism, that is, any behavior that causes or replicating the inferiority and demerce to the childAlections in between or airs of greatness.
-Respeting their processes and empathy, remember that you were also a girl and that you sometimes needed to go to your rhythm without pressures;What better to understand the childhoods of your life to return to the creature that you were and buy yourself as you would have liked to be treated when you were minor.
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-Well treatment towards myself, towards childhoods and towards each person with whom we interact, because a very beautiful feature regarding intergenerational relationships is that adults are references of childhood, so if I treat myself beautifulI build the bridge so that the creatures of my life were also beautiful.Thus, from tender age, they will carry a satisfactory relationship with themselves and the people around them.
-Not sexualizing childhoods, or imposing gender roles, such as makeup, normalize that they dance and listen to reggaeton, tell them that if they have a boyfriend, specifically, let them live their full and transparent childhood, without the mandates of the worldadult;All in time, respect their own processes.
What is feminist parenting?
-Do not "generate" their tastes, with this I mean letting them choose the toy they like, or the color of clothing with which they feel better, because that pink is for girls and blue for boys in full21st century is unacceptable, clothing, games, toys, emotions etc., have no gender, and childhoods must be free to choose and have as the center to be themselves, free of any label.
-Lenguage: teach them the importance of nameing, appointing and where they are located.Finally, dialogue, put limits (because doing so is self -care) and not imposing ourselves (assertiveness), respect in reciprocity.
And how do we achieve these keys?, With: patience and understanding, without neglecting the importance of a support network for containment and accompaniment.And never to disconsider teamwork with whom we raise, that is to say the wonderful co -responsibility.
*Margarita Mantilla (Mexico City, 1985) sociologist and feminist researcher, teacher in women's studies for the UAM-X.COFUNDADORA DE COCU (collective body), feminist of the UAM-X, I like to menstruate and creator of feminist tallecitas (space for feminist political formation).She specializes in feminist theory, from where she deals with the issues of maternity, feminist economy, street harassment, rental bellies, gender relations, fatophobia and more.She passionate about music, cinema and literature, especially where the filmmakers are women.
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